3.5: Not His

Written by CitizenErased14

Jonas is not my Papa.

No matter what anyone says.

Things were already bad enough at that dumb wedding. All the grownups kept going on and on about how lucky we are to have Jonas marry our Mama. They said… What was it again? Our family’s “complete” now, or something.

What’s THAT supposed to mean? Jonas ISN’T my family. I mean, sometimes he feels kinda like a friend, but that’s only when we hang out at the museum, or he buys me my favorite ice cream. And a friend still isn’t family!

I was SO mad.

At least afterward things kinda-sorta went back to normal.

But today… Today things got even WORSE. Can you believe it?

Okay, let me tell you what happened.

We were down at the park – Me and Tobias, and Mama and Jonas too.

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Me and Tobias were playing pirate – that’s one of our favorites. I’m always the Captain because I’m the best at giving all the directions and being the boss.

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And Tobi’s the first mate, because he likes to run around and do stuff.

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Anyway, we were just getting to the good part of the game when it happened. Mama and Jonas were talking to this wrinkly old lady on one of the benches. And I heard her turn to Jonas and ask “Are those your boys over there?” And then she said one of those weird things strangers always say… “They’re so adorable” or “They’re so well-behaved”, or something dumb like that. I’m not really sure. But I definitely heard her ask it – “Are those your boys?”

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And it’s not the first time something like that’s happened. People always seem to think Jonas is our Papa. And he’s always really nice when he tells them they’re wrong…

But this time, he just smiled and said “Yeah, they are… Thanks!”

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WHAT?!

I was waiting and waiting for Mama to say something, but she didn’t! Just gave Jonas this stupid, lovey-dovey smile. YUCK!

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That was the last straw. Tobias can be Jonas’ boy if he wants.

But not me.

I’ve learned my lesson before though. I knew I had to keep it all inside. So I just told Tobias I didn’t feel like playing anymore, then I went and told Mama I was tired and wanted to leave.

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I think they could tell something wasn’t right though.

The whole walk home, Jonas wouldn’t stop asking me if I was okay.

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I wish he’d just leave me alone.

I’m not his boy.

And he’s not my Papa!

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53 thoughts on “3.5: Not His”

    1. I feel bad for him too! 😦 And I also feel bad for Stefan. It’s a really difficult situation all around 😦 Thank you SO much for reading, by the way! ❤

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    1. Hahaha I feel very bad for him though. He just wants his real dad 😦 But he is also very unfair to Jonas. He actually DOES like Jonas quite a bit, by the way. But he doesn’t like Jonas being his new dad. So therefore he has a hard time allowing himself to like him… Plus he’s 10 and has the hot headed trait Hehehehe

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    2. LMAO….part of me feels like – you know – at least you have a male role model kid…the other part of me understands because it took me some time to understand how lucky I was to have a positive father figure to depend on. :0) BABY STEPS ❤

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      2. #TeamBabySteps hahaha Stefan is definitely blinded to what he has and how lucky he is. He just really wants to know his biological father and doesn’t like having someone else trying to fill that role. Poor Stefan AND poor Jonas. 😦

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  3. Is it bad that I kind of want to smack Stefan?

    Probably just me, but it’s upsetting and saddening to see him state he can’t stand Jonas. (My brother has three stepchildren, and he cares for them like his own, so maybe it’s just a personal thing for me) 😥

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    1. Stefan never said he doesn’t like him 🙂 He actually likes Jonas! Like he said, he sees him as a friend. He just can’t deal with Jonas “trying to be his dad” (as he sees it), so he lashes out angrily toward him.

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      1. I see Stefan eventually finding out who his real father is and then realizing that Jonas is really his really his father and that his real father was just a pixel donor and potential and a loser since he didn’t try to be a part of his life. It could cause issues with his relationship with his mother because her nefarious past might be revealed to her children and no telling what other twisty turns it might take. And it will not happen overnight. My theory. But you are full of surprises. :). I may be waaaay off base. There are certainly dozens of other scenarios that could happen.

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        1. I like this theory a lot! I can’t say one way or another of course haha but I love that you have such an awesome prediction! 🙂

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  6. I feel bad for Jonas. He’s trying so hard to be a part of this family and Stefan just keeps pushing him away. But I also feel positive that it will all end happily though 😉

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    1. Yes, Jonas just wants to love his stepsons 😦 Stefan is very unfair to him, but he just REALLY wants his “real” dad. So sad! 😦 And as for a happy ending… We will see!

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      1. Surely there has to be a happy ending. It’s you after all 😉 And I know you can be mean at times, but still. There. Has. To. Be. A. Happy. Ending! *raises eyebrows at Citizen expectantly*

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  7. But, Stefan, unless your father was Humberto, your dad is just some drunken guy who doesn’t care at all! He probably doesn’t even know that you exist! You are lucky you have a father who loves you, even if he isn’t blood related to you! Still, #TeamBabySteps! 🙂

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  8. I’m loving how you’ve got the whole spectrum covered. Tobias and the whole super hero dad storyline was incredibly sweet, you said so much by so little and really tugged at the heart strings.

    And in this chapter we really feel for both Stefan and Jonas. I don’t have any first hand experience with either’s perspective, thoug I feel like I’ve always read that as a step-parent you should only try to act as a parent if the child seems ready to accept you that way, to not overstep your boundaries. Thoug in this situation, where there’s two of them at the same age, and one is ready for a new dad, it must be really tricky. I completely understand Jonas is just trying to do what feels right and maybe I’d act the same way.

    On the other hand I understand Stefan too. Growing up I’ve had many friends who had an issue with accepting their parents’ new partners. It can’t be rushed. Especially when the twins’real dad is not in the picture. If they knew their dad, he wouldn’t be on a pedestal. But with him being a big question mark, it’s easy to see how it would be hard for anyone to live up to those expectations.

    Oops, I wrote an essay! 😀

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    1. Yay! The return of the long and Insightful Plumbob comment! 😛 Hehe I love that you “get” all of my characters so well right now. It’s a genuinely complicated situation, with many sides!

      Jonas and Stefan’s relationship is so complicated. Jonas genuinely, honestly loves the twins like they’re his own kids. So being so horribly rejected by Stefan HURTS. But he never pushes it because he cares and doesn’t want to make things worse.

      And as for Stefan, well, it’s like he said — he LIKES Jonas. He thinks of him as a friend. And I think the fact that he likes Jonas actually makes him MORE mad at him haha. It’s like “I really don’t WANT to like you because I don’t want you to be my dad, but you’re kind of awesome and that just makes me more irrationally angry at you being in my life” XD (which, logically, makes zero sense. But empirically, I think it does!)

      And then there’s Mari… Caught in the middle of it all haha

      I didn’t mean to write you a novel back, it just came out 😛 I am really loving exploring these complex relationships and your analysis of them made me excited hehe ❤ Thank you for reading, as always!

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    2. I’m on my phone and somehow “emotionally” autocorrected to “empirically”, so forgive that total randomness in my reply to you lmao

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      1. Heh, maybe it makes empirical sense too 😀 I on the other hand have managed to misspell ‘though’ twice (the tablet is my excuse!) 🙂

        I think it’s awesome how much ground and how many points of view you’ve been able to capture in the last few chapters. And from a readers perspective I completely see how they way each of them see things is justified. Aah, the luxury of being in several people’s heads through writing/reading 🙂

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  10. I really feel for Stefan. I think I’ve said this before, but I can’t help but wonder if Stefan and Jonas’s relationship would be better if the father were, say, Humberto. Someone Stefan were able to know. With bio-dad up on a pedestal as ThePlumbob said, I worry for what Stefan and Jonas’s relationship will be like in the future.

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  11. Poor Jonas…I wonder why he feels that way. Okay, so he wants his real Dad, but Jonas is there, even if he isn’t their real Dad, he makes Mari happy, and treats them okay. It’s sad that some kids just don’t see it!

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    1. Yeah it’s tough 😦 Poor Stefan just wants his “real” dad, and Jonas just wants some love from his stepson! (I am about to go to work so if I suddenly stop replying to your comments in real-time, that’s probably why :P)

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  14. This makes my heart break 😦
    There really isn’t a match for biological parents, even if they aren’t what’s best for the kid. I don’t live with my dad, and I know sometimes I get weird like that, especially if I see other people with good fathers. So it makes me sad when younger kids go through that. Again, this is just a damn sim, but when I read my mind wanders to real world applications most of the time.

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    1. It’s totally okay to think of them as real! I do too, and I take it as a compliment that you do 🙂 But I’m sorry that you have experience with this kind of situation 😦

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  15. Oh boy… the twins aren’t only opposite in hair colors.
    Here I am, five chapters into gen 3 when I promised myself I would stop after gen 2 tonight and get some things checked off my checklist! Lol! This legacy is so well done it’s addicting!

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    1. Hehehe sorry for distracting you 😛 I’m so glad you’re enjoying it so much. That is awesome and I seriously appreciate it! 🙂 And yes, Tobi and Stefan are definitely opposites in many, many ways haha 😛

      Thanks again for reading! I know I keep saying that, but I really mean it 🙂

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  16. Maybe Jonas needs to tell Stefan that he is not going to take the place of his father. Stephan can have 2 fathers. Or to just call him Jonas and know that He will still be there for him. What is a father? Not necessarily a sperm donor. A caregiver. A provider, An example. A teacher. A hero. Are just a few of the things. Stefan’s personality is a lot like Maris. At least Mari will understand his moods better until he turns to the terrible teens.

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